“Unlike the changing states of mind or emotion, generalizations are the bedrock, steadfast and enduring, unless actively challenged and transformed.”

What to do if the changes you want to make in your life don't last

Lasting transformation can sometimes feel like an elusive mirage. Many individuals experience the frustration of fleeting improvements, where progress seems to dissolve as quickly as it appears. This phenomenon begs the question:

Why doesn't the change you want last?

The answer lies in understanding the critical difference between changing states and altering generalizations, and recognizing the deeper, more enduring approach of transforming your Self-Concept.

The Fleeting Nature of Certain Kinds of Changes

State changes are immediate alterations in our emotional, mental, or physical condition. They are akin to the weather — variable, transient, and susceptible to external influences. You might find yourself invigorated by a motivational speech, soothed by a meditation session, or emboldened by positive affirmations. While these states are genuine and impactful in the moment, they inherently lack permanence.

The Keep to Deep Change Work

Generalizations, on the other hand, are the foundational beliefs and rules we hold about ourselves, others, and the world. These deep-seated convictions shape our perception, influence our behavior, and ultimately form the backbone of our identity. Unlike the changing states of mind or emotion, generalizations are the bedrock, steadfast and enduring, unless actively challenged and transformed.

The Challenge of Changing Deep-Rooted Beliefs:

• Ingrained Patterns: Generalizations are formed over years, through repeated experiences and internalized messages, making them resistant to superficial change.

• The Key to Lasting Transformation: Altering these fundamental beliefs offers a pathway to sustainable change, reshaping our actions, reactions, and self-concept at the most intrinsic level.

Bridging the Gap

Their is a model achieving lasting change by focusing on transforming our self-concept — the overarching set of generalizations we hold about ourselves. This model targets the core of our identity for deep, enduring transformation.

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